What mind science says about scolding and punishing children some Facts you should know?

Today we will talk about what mind science says about scolding and punishing children parents have two objective behind scolding/punishing.

One objective is to stay away children from something which parents do not want, they try to discourage behavior by punishment.

Now the second reason of punishment is parents themselves do not know why they are getting angry . and they try to teach something in their angry mood Mean they stop their children to do something but angrily.

Fore example they shout "I told you many times not to do that " Now here the purpose is to make child understand the the way of talking is not appropriate , the pitch of voice is very high Your body  language is very aggressive some parent physical punish and they think their child's behavior will be improved.

Now child will be changed now and everything will be fine now these are the objectives of punishment. Now I will tell you if you want to discourage child's behavior ,you don't want him to repeat any specific behavior again that is why we are scolding so the best way is to explain politely why you are stopping him Now what is the disadvantages of scolding let me tell you. People are born with two by default fear.

• 1 is fear of height. 
• 2nd is fear of laud voice remaining fear are installed by our parents ,teachers ,society etc. when ever we experience laud voice , our 5 senses are freezes by our conscious mind means our communication connection with world is disconnected for a while because 5 sense are freezed.

And what ever you say to child does not reach his mind and this is the time when parents try to teach children and unfortunately child does not understand anything because of loud voice his communication network is not working.

 Now and all the efforts of parents go futile and when children repeat the same behavior the parents give reference that i told you the other day not to do that now when your child's mind is not accepting any information due to fear of laud voice how will he obey. Actually according to mind science Our communication is based on three things.

1st is our body language

let me tell you how tone effect if I say you in a flat tone of voice "you will do this" Now if I say with high pitch "You will do this" Now this statement became a Question it mean listen has option to say YES or NO means choice is in the hand of listener NOT you If I say the same statement by make my pitch low".

 You will do this" Now this statement became a Command Now it became an order not question now parents make a mistake here they think when the speak in a laud voice their message will be stronger and effective but according to mind science our mind is more responsive to low voice , it becomes more effective to our unconscious mind.

 When I say in a commanding way " you will do this" Now listener does not have any choice ,he will must do that so now avoid speaking in a laud voice and try to teach him in a polite way by lower commanding voice it will be even more effective for his unconscious mind , and he will take it as command.

Because you objective is to improve child's behavior so the best way is to communicate effectively rather than just shouting and beating you can express your disapproval through your body language or facial expression and then after some time communicate properly as discussed during communication you must have eye contact.

 With him have serious facial expression after that ask him in a commanding way choose sentences as per situation now make a combination of 7% words 38% tone and %55 body language and use all together effectively.

You will be able to reach your child's mind more effectively otherwise you will just make your self fool that you have scolded or punished your child and his behavior is improved now show me child who was beaten by his parents and leave his behavior 99% children repeat the same again physical punishment never works to improve behavior.

Everyday teacher shouts in class , but what is the result then? as parents our problem is ,we know this technique is not working yet we do not go for other option, we don’t learn new things we basically vent out our frustration on children by scolding or punishing, otherwise if we are really interested in improving their behavior then we should understand how their mind work