How to be mentally strong and fearless

A teacher gave his student some big sized pearls. He ordered him to go to vegetable market and get a price quotation for these pearls. Listening this, the student becomes confused, but for the sake to obey his teacher, he goes to vegetable market. There he finds a vegetable seller, and asks for a price quotation for the pearls. Since the shop keeper is a vegetable seller, and he does not have enough knowledge about pearls, he puts the pearls on side of weighing balance, and places some big sized lemons on other side of weighing balance. Once the weight is balanced, he respond to the student. In my opinion, these pearls does not worth more than these lemons.

The student conveys the words of vegetable seller to his teacher. Now his teacher again send the student to jewelry market, to get a price quotation. When the student reached there and asks for quotation from a jeweler, since the jeweler is expert of his field, and has enough knowledge about jewelry, he responds to the students after examining the pearls thoroughly, If I sell my shop and all the jewelry along with, still I will not be able to pay the price of these pearls. they value is this much high. The student conveys his message also to the teacher. Listening this the teacher explains to the student, The real value of any thing can only be judged by the one, Who has enough knowledge of the related thing. If we will ask for the value of pearls from a vegetable seller, he will not value pearls more than lemons.


May be you also have asked from some one about yourself, and the other person told you, that you have a very weak personality. and  even you got disheart to listen this. But it is not essential that the teller was a psychology expert. so it is not must to take his opinion too serious. In fact the reality may be opposite and you might be a person with strong personality. In today's , I will tell you, 5 signs of mentally strong people. You keep on comparing yourself with these signs , and at the end of , comment and tell that how many signs match with you. If 3 or more than 3 signs match you, then you are obviously a mentally strong person. Since I am also not a psychology expert, there for I am not talking without the reference. Basically few days ago I read an article, in which Amy Morin explained such 5 signs, which are usually considered to me signs of mentally weak person. But according to Amy Morin, These are not signs of mentally weak people, but are the signs of mentally strong people. Amy Morin is a psychologist, and author of  numerous books in USA, and has delivered multiple speeches in TedTalk. After knowing these signs, you yourself decide, what usual people think about yourself, and what experts like Amy Morin think. Hopefully, you will trust experts like Amy Morin, than people with no expertise. 

1.To be Nice:-

If you keep on caring for others happiness all the time, helps other even without asked, or helps other whenever they call you for help, even helps friend of the type, who never helped you when you needed, then may be, you will have to listen this from people that, This man is insane, any one can use him, he keeps on appeasing people all the time. But Amy Morin does not agree with such people. According to her, this is a sign of mentally strong people rather mentally weak people. It needs courage and confidence to do such tasks. Because it may happen, the person you are helping is reluctant to receive help, you don't get reward of friendship, or the person you want to appease does not become satisfied even you tried hard. These all are social risks and healthy for society. Only a mentally strong person can take such risks. Otherwise mentally weak people don't take such risks. So if you are also nice with other people, then ignore the comments of other people, as per Amy Morin, you are a mentally strong person.

2.Asking other for help:-

Usually people think that a man who knows how to do all the stuff and does not need help of any one, is a mentally strong person And the person who, when ever is in trouble, ask for help from others, is mentally weak person. Amy Morin again disagree strongly with such people. According to her, to say only "I can't do this alone", it requires extra courage. Not every one can admit one's deficiency in front of others. Only mentally strong people, when ever are in trouble, can admit that I don't know this, I can't do this, I need your help. Mentally strong people does not go down the journey alone. They have the company of the people who can assist them. That is why, Arnold use to say, don't call me self made, whatever I am today, is because a lot of people have helped me a lot. So if you also don't hesitate in asking for help from others, you are a mentally strong person.

3.Failures:-

If you also have tried again and again in succeeding something, but every time you try, you lose. Then certainly people will be commenting and dishearting you. They would be saying, that you can't do, you can't succeed, you are not mentally strong so better you give up. While on other hand, a person who has never faced a failure in any thing, people consider him a mentally strong person. While reality is totally opposite. According to Amy Morin, a person fails only when he tries to push himself beyond his limits. If you have never lost then it means, you never challenged your abilities. If fear of losing stops you from challenging your abilities, then you would be safe from losing, but will not be able to enhance your abilities. So if you also don't accept defeat and challenge your abilities repeatedly, and also fails sometimes, then don't get upset, it proves you a mentally strong person instead of mentally weak person. 

4.To be Patient:-

The world finds shortcut for every thing in today's fast times. Once there was a time when people spent there lives in such a scientific research, which had solved some problem of humanity. But today the research done in whole world, is just to publish research paper and to earn degrees. The world has been so fast. And people consider a person with patience, as a person with out active and excited attitude. If you also are doing you work at your pace regardless of world's pace for some bigger goal, and are not caring whether it will take some months or years to complete, and are firm to your purpose, then because of unavailability of immediate results, the world would assume you slow, in able and dunce.

May be people would be saying you, Look at him, what he has succeeded, Look at another one, what he has achieved, and you still don't have any result. You are a mentally weak person. But according to Amy Morin, this is not the sign of inactive attitude, but the sign of a patient and strong mind, who is working for a bigger goal with extreme patience. According to Amy Morin, the real change is not over night. It requires a lot of patience and efforts. And only a mentally strong person can do this. So if you are, while working for your goal, has not achieved any big achievement, don't be upset, and don't get disheart because of what people say, you are a mentally strong person. 

5.Self Improvement:-

If you are reading a book containing some unique tips for self improvement, or you are listening to some motivational speech, or you are staring gym to control your belly, then you will see many people will comment over you. May be some of them literally jock at you. They all will again consider you such a mentally weak person, who is doing use less stuff. But to do any thing for self improvement, does not matter if it is physical, mental or spiritual, a weak minded person will never do. He will not be having wish and courage to do so. Only a mentally strong person will do this courageous act. Who wants to improve himself each passing day.

So according to Amy Morin, if you take out time for self improvement, and do any such stuff, then you are a mentally strong person. So the other people who don't do any such stuff, don't take them too serious. So friend, tell us in comment section, how many of these signs you have in you, and what signs you want to have in you, but you need some easy tips to develop those. For you help, in our incoming articles, we will include that topic in detail, so that you and other people can have benefit of it. Friends, if you like this , the n please comment and thanks. Take your care.